Clothes

　　Another thing that women will notice, especially on first dates, but later in the relationship as well, is how you dress. Make sure that everything matches and is clean, and also that you dress appropriately for the date.

　　Even more importantly than that, though, is making sure that your “level” of dress matches hers… it will make most women very uncomfortable on a date if you are dressed either much more formally or much more casually than she is.

　　Fun

　　One of the biggest things, maybe actually the biggest thing, that a woman will remember about a first date is how much fun she had. If you set up a fun date, where you have something interesting to do for the time you are together （without having to rush from place to place with no time in between）， it shows that you feel she is important enough to spend the time and energy to plan such a thing.

　　It also leaves you associated with that fun in her thoughts… when she thinks of it, she'll think of you. Being linked, mentally, to good times and fun is nearly invaluable in building relationships.

　　Her Importance

　　All of the things above （with the exception of #1）， when taken together, paint a picture of her importance to you. When you go out of your way, spending extra time and attention on getting yourself ready and on the date itself, it tells her that she matters to you, that you place a high value on her and your time together.

　　That perception of her value to you is the key to using a first date as the start of a strong relationship. It is also a major piece of the strength of an ongoing relationship… no one wants to feed their time and energy, their heart and emotions, into a relationship where they don't feel valued. So take the time to make her feel valued on your first date… and then continue that on every date afterward, for the rest of your relationship.

　　The impact of how important you feel that you are to the person that you're with cannot be overstated. It's not just important to a good date, or even a good relationship… it plays a major role in your overall mental and emotional health.

　　All of the things above that you have control over affect that feeling of importance to you for the girl that you're with. Good looks can make her feel even more special （silly but true）， but really have less impact on the overall feeling than the rest of the points… especially after the first date.

　　Anyone disagree with any of the items on my list? I'd like to hear from both women and men… did I list something that really is of no importance （remember, this is not “shouldn't matter”, it's actually doesn't matter）， or leave off something of significance?

　　市面上许多各种各样的书籍、杂志，以及其他类似的文章都会告诉你，女孩子真正想要的是什么，还有什么对她们来说才是最重要的。这些问题的答案都是基于成千上百的女孩子投票得出的结果。

　　那你为什么没有想过自己问问尽可能多的女孩来解开迷惑呢？答案很简单，但是并不是每一个人看到这种民意测试时能够想得到的。当你发起一场大的民意调查，你所得到的答案都是他们认为自己应该是怎么样的，而并非他们实际的想法。

　　如果想找出事实的真相，你得问问那些和你很熟，熟到能完全跟你坦白的人的想法。下面所列出来的是我和一些认识的（并且已经认识很久了的）女孩子的交谈中，她们告诉我的真实想法。

　　记住，正如题目里所提到的，这是关于女孩子第一次约会时真正关注的（也可能是第二次或则第三次），而不适用于长期相处。尽管其中很多因素在长期相处时仍显得很重要，但是完全是两码事，也就是说第一次某些方面更加重要（比如说，外貌在开始交往的时候要比日后相处时更重要，尽管长相，甚至很多年后，仍很有关系）。

　　女孩第一次约会注重什么

　　1、外表

　　许多女性，在民意调查中，都表示长相并不是那么重要。但是，很多女孩子在和自己的密友聊天时，就承认长相还是很有关系的。就让我们面对这个事实嘛！当你被某人的外表所吸引了，你才会从精神上和情感上喜欢上他。