Mixed Marriages 跨国婚恋

 

dialogue 1

 

N: if you can choose, will you marry a foreigner or a Chinese?

如果让你选的话，你是愿意嫁给一个中国人还是一个外国人？

 

S: why? Did tom pop the question?

为什么这么问，汤姆向你求婚了吗？

 

N: not yet. But I wonder if I can get my parents’ consent.

没有，我怕父母不同意。

 

S: let me guess, your parents want you to marry a Chinese man, right?

我猜猜，你父母一定是想你嫁一个中国人，对吗？

 

N: you are right. It is giving me a real headache. I feel like I’m between a rock and a hard place.

是啊，我正头疼呢，我觉得左右为难。

 

S: I used to have the same problem when I was with my ex.

我和以前的男朋友谈恋爱时，也遇到了同样的问题。

 

N: oh, how did you deal with it?

那你怎么解决的？

 

S: I just let it go and continued dating with my Korean boyfriend. But finally we broke up.

我就顺其自然，继续和我的韩国男朋友约会，但是后来我们还是分手了。

 

N: oh, it’s a pity. What was the matter?

太可惜了，为什么啊？

 

S: simple. We had personality clashes and there were too many cultural differences.

很简单，我们性格不合，双方文化也有很多不同之处。

 

N: like what?

比如呢？

 

S: he hoped to live in the Korean way and asked me to give up working and stay at home to take care of the family.

他希望我过韩式的生活，要求我放弃工作，安心待在家里。

 

N: Oh, I see. In their culture women should put family first.

这样啊，在他们的文化里，女性应该以家庭为重。

 

S: yes, he said it would be batter for me and for the whole family. But I simply can not quit working.

是啊，他说这样对我，对整个家庭都好。但是我就是不想辞掉工作。

 

N: so that's why it’s hard to have a happy marriage with a foreigner.

所以和外国人结婚，很难幸福。

 

S: not really. There are many successful mixed marriage around us.

也不一定，我们周围不也有很多成功的例子嘛。

 

dialogue 2

 

N: more and more Chinese are marrying foreigners.

越来越多的中国人嫁给了外国人。

 

S: that's true. But I have a low opinion of those women who go out with foreigners.

是啊，但是我挺鄙视那些和外国人在一起的女人的。

 

N: oh, why?

啊？为什么啊？

 

S: I think some Chinese wonem marry foreigners for money while others just want to live abroad. There is no true love between them.

我觉得有些人嫁给外国人是为了钱，有些人是为了去国外定居，反正他们之间没有真爱。

 

N: I wouldn't say that's totally true. I've met many happy intercultural couples.

也不全是吧。我见过很多幸福的跨过夫妻。

 

S: well, then why aren't there many East-West couples where the man is a Chinese and the woman is a Westerner?

N: I guess it's because the Chinese women are more attractive to Western men.

那为什么没有多少夫妻，男方是中国人，女方是外国人呢？

 

S: or because they are less attractive to to Chinese men.

可能是因为中国女人对外国男人更有吸引力吧。

 

N: what do you mean? 

怎么说？