Remember Your Anniversaries and Firsts
　　
　　Neglect it at your cost, but if you forget an anniversary, woe betide you… Write it down, print it out, tattoo it onto your brain, but make sure you remember your anniversaries and birthdays. Why? Well, with a little planning, that event can become focal points for the year. Something to look forward to. You could even surprise him/her with gifts sent by post. Ebay.com has lots of stuff on offer, so make full use of it. Everyone loves getting something special in the mail.
　　

　　Keep A Journal
　　
　　What doesn't get written down, will not be remembered. You're both young, enterprising adults with lives of your own. Keep track of your thoughts and emotional development. Keep track of your dreams and hopes. Doodle, scribble, and inscribe your memory in a special way so that you may share it. The point is that sometimes Life moves so fast, you forget who you were or why you are with the person. A journal acts as a reminder.

　　
　　Pay Attention To Each Other's Needs For Sleep
　　
　　Difference in time zone, jet lag, lack of morning coffee - are frequently cited reasons as to why you're especially grouchy. Both partners need to be mindful that people get tired and need rest. When you agree to communicate choose a reasonable timing. Something that you're both comfortable with. 8pm in Hong Kong is 12pm in Britain. That's reasonable. When I was 8 hours ahead of my girl when she was visiting her family in UK, I came up with a table to remind myself of the time in UK, each time she logged on. I shared this with her and as much as possible we talked only when it was reasonable for us to do so.
　　
　　Use Google Maps to Visualize the Space Between You
　　
　　It's a fun exercise to help crystallize the distance that separates the two of you. Go to Google Maps type in your address and then type in your partner's address. Create a composite map of how you'll be getting home if you were to walk the entire distance using satellite photos.
　　
　　Finally, Trust
　　
　　The most important thing in a relationship is Trust. Trust that your partner will do the right thing. Trust that you will do the right thing. Be aware that pitfalls await for any couple, and that he/she can cheat at any point in time and space because, really at the end of the day, its their choice. What we can do as partners of lovers who are abroad is be the best person
　　
　　that we can be.
　　
　　I hope this write up will be of use to all lovers out there living under the tyranny of distance. Trust me on this, LDRs are worth having. There's an old adage that goes, “Absence only makes the heart grow fonder” and the old-fuddy-duddy in me wants to believe in that. Till next time!
　　

　　1. 在周五或者周末一起看DVD
　　
　　即使你们分隔两地，仍旧可以在同一时间看同一部租来的电影。至少，在看完以后，你们两个能够聊一些关于这电影的东西。无论你喜欢与否，无论你如何给各个不同角色定位，说到底，这也是个聊天的话题。

　　
　　2. 共同完成一个计划
　　
　　我的一个朋友在北京工作，而他的妻子生活在美国。他们定了婚，并且都在为拥有共同的美好未来而努力工作。他们刚买了一所住宅，而且正在想如何来装潢它。并非真的把各种各样的材料家具搬回家（这样子可贵着呢），他们拿出带摄像头的手机，卡嚓卡嚓地拍下照片，为它们标价，再把这些照片贴到网络相册Flickr上，或者建立一个博客，把它们贴在博客上。这下，你们两个就都会忙于寻觅梦想中的家具了。

　　
　　3. 拥有共同的梦想
　　
　　我的一个同性恋朋友和他的另一半都是健身爱好者。他们有想要跑上100公里马拉松的疯狂的念头。问题是，他们中的一个人要远赴美国进修学业，而且要到今年年底才有寒假能够回来。于是，我问他们，何不拥有一致的目标但是分开训练呢？然后到今年年底等他们之中的一个人会来后再一起跑步，我还建议他们写下他们一起的训练日记。

　　
　　4. 要常用Skype（网络语音通讯软件）和MSN
　　
　　沟通是建立任何保持良好关系的恋情的关键。只要条件允许就应该立即和你的爱人沟通，如果没有时间，最多也只能稍微拖一拖。Skype提供了快捷的宽带连接以及良好的中央处理器，使人们能够更快地在因特网上与任何人通话，而且还是免费的。如果你不能进行语音聊天，那么你该用MSN或者几十种相互竞争的即时聊天工具中的一种来与你的爱人保持联系，并且时刻关注着他/她。既然现在的通话无需付费，而且聊天工具又使对话如此即时，还有什么借口来对沟通说不呢？

　　
　　5. 脚踏实地、一心一意地恋爱
　　
　　我不需要再强调这一点的重要性了。大多数刚抵达一个新城市的人会突然发现他们的周围都是新的事情、新的人。这会诱惑人，让人会有尝试新鲜事物的想法。“这山望着那山高”，人们差不多是这样解释给我听的。要抵制住啊！你要告诉你自己，你正处在一份完美的恋情中，也不应该让自己陷入不好的处境。生活不该像《欲望都市》中的某一段情节，因为那种生活会使你渐渐耗尽精力并且变得空虚。在你们要分开之前，留一些信物，比如说戒指、耳钉、项链，什么都可以。不用太华丽的东西，只是一种象征和一种暗示，代表了你把他或她的心放在了你的心里。当你给他或她的时候，把它的意义告诉你的另一半。