6 Sentences You Should Never Tell Your Good Friends

 

1.“Let me just check my cell phone”

“我看看电话”

Cell phones ruin many relationships and friendships. If you are always checking your phone, your friend may get the signal that he or she is not worth your time. Give your friend your full attention while you are together — switch off your phone!

电话能是感情破裂、友尽。如果你总是玩手机，你的朋友就会觉得他自己是在占用你的时间。给你的朋友足够的注意，你们在一起的时候---关掉电话。

2.“I can’t tell you – it’s private”

“我不能告诉你---这是个人隐私”

Telling your good friend this means that you do not trust them enough with confidential information. True friendship is about sharing our real selves and that will include private stuff. Start something confidential with “I know I can trust you with this.”

对朋友说这句话就说明你对他还不够信任。真正的好朋友就是来分享我们的秘密的，当然也包括我们的隐私。从说“我知道我能相信你”开始吧。

3.“I never have enough time”

“我时间不够了”

In ancient times, friendship was such a high calling and a privilege that it was often more valued than marriage. Time is an essential ingredient in nurturing friendships. Telling a good friend you have not enough time is a real turn off. Try saying, “I’ll always have enough time for you.”

在古代，友谊是一种高于婚姻只有少数人才能拥有的。时间是维系友谊最基本的。对你的朋友说你没有时间就是一种拒绝。试着说，“对你一直都有时间。”

4.“I am going to be late”

“我会迟到”

This shouldn’t sound like a chronic condition. A lack of punctuality can mean missed restaurant bookings or walking into a film that has already started. If you are unpunctual, it might be time to start getting more organized. You should say, “I really am going to get my unpunctuality under control.”

这听起来不应该是长期问题。不准时也就意味着要错过订餐或者看电影。如果你不准时，那就是该学着更有安排。你应该说，“我真的会改改不准时的毛病。”

5.“You could have asked me for advice or help”

“你本可以找我帮忙的”

The truth is that good friends know when to be there and when to lend a shoulder to cry on. You should not need to be asked or told. You should say, “You know that I am always around, if you need help with anything.”

好朋友就知道到什么时候在你身边，什么时候借个肩膀给你依靠。根本不必言说。你应该说，“你知道的只要你需要帮助，我一直都在。”

6.“I told Y all about your problems”

“我把你的问题告诉了某某”

Gossip and betrayal will damage a friendship irrevocably. A true test of friendship is communicating fully with each other. You can rely on each other not to gossip and this adds a great sense of security and serenity to your friendship. With a good friend, “You can trust me, I won’t tell anyone else.”

八卦和背叛都会让友谊陷入万劫不复之地。经过考验的友谊就是你们之间有足够的交流。你们可以彼此依赖不互相八卦，这样会给彼此一种安全感，祥和感。好朋友之间，“你可以相信我，我不会告诉别人。”