We’ve all heard the statistic that up to 90% of communication is non-verbal in nature. Body language is important. But what actually is “good” body language? How do we learn to “speak” body language?
据数据显示自然界中90%的交流都是无声的。肢体语言是非常重要的。但是到底什么才是真的“好的”肢体语言呢？我们应该如何学习“说”肢体语言呢？
1. They understand the importance of intention
他们知道目的的重要性
Actions are generated by beliefs, thoughts, and feelings.
行动通常是源自于新年，思想和感觉。
What are you doing and thinking before presentations or meeting new people? Worrying? Stressing? Imagining worst case scenarios? If so, you may need to do some inner work. Popular people often take the time to prepare for meetings and new engagements by visualising a happy, upbeat outcome.
在做展示或是见陌生人之前你在做什么？在想什么呢？担心？压力大？想象最糟糕的情况？如果是这样，也许你需要做一些心理练习啦。受欢迎的人通常会花时间准备会议和新的活动，为呈现出一种欢乐的，令人满意的结果。
2. They stand up straight, but not too straight
 

4 Body Language Skills that make the Popular

他们站直，但不太直
Popular people stand up straight, projecting confidence and competence. But they don’t overdo it; this would come across as stiff and unnatural.
受欢迎的人直站也会流露出自信和能力。但是他们不会站得很直。因为那样会显得很僵硬不自然。
3. They make eye contact, but not too much eye contact
会有眼神交流，但是交流得也不是太多
Looking at the ground? Looking at the ceiling? Looking anywhere but into peoples’ eyes? Popular people make good steady eye contact, and in doing so connect with their audience and build trust. Good eye contact is foundational to good communication. But don’t lock on to conversation partners with a permanent stare; 
看地上？看屋顶？看任何一个地方但是就是不看人的眼睛？受欢迎的人会有稳定的眼神交流，这样能与他们的听众有交流，建立信任感。好的眼神交流是一种好的交流的基础。但是不要一直盯着你的谈话对象。
4. They smile and laugh, but not at their own jokes
他们会笑，但是他们不再自己讲笑话的时候笑
Having a stone-like face communicates seriousness. The audience takes their cues from you. So the popular smile to communicate openness and friendliness, and laugh to relax and bond with their audience.
板着个脸说话会让交流变得很严肃。听众要从你这里获取信息。那么笑容有助于自由，友好的交流，欢笑有助于放松，与听众建立起紧密联系。